Do you ever wonder if you have one of those faces? I think my face says to people, “She’ single, I have a single Male friend, relative, acquaintance I can introduce to her. She should be married or at least having fun.”
This week, a coworker stated that she would find a man for me because I’m single and do not have any children. If I have a husband, I would leave work earlier (that may in fact be true, but only time will tell if that happens) and have fun. Earlier in the week on Mother’s day and the following Monday, I was asked if I have any children followed by was I sure. Which I would hope I remember if I have children, that I remember I did, otherwise, that’s a much larger issue.
I get the feeling around holidays like this and as I age, there are more well-meaning comments on my relationship status and lack of brood. I used to be really offended, but now I take it more in stride. It is still weird for sure, but I expect it more now.
I do sometimes wonder if I will get married or have children, but I’m a special snowflake either way.
Plus, unless it actually happens, there’s nothing much to discuss. Unless you’re one of those people that wants to talk to me about black women against other black women at work while I’m loading my groceries for checkout. We can chat and I really want to know why you thought it was cool to talk about such a heavy topic while I’m buying my cheese sticks and cereal. It’s after work and I wanna go home, but I also don’t want to be lumped in with your work complaints.
I think I have one of those faces that says “Talk to me about whatever you think and feel. I’m here for it.” Which I don’t mind listening to most people, just leave my relationship status and supposed secret children out of it.